Comparing Kids

Over the weekend Madi had her first playdate. This was also the first time that Madi was around another baby that is so close to her own age. And let me just say it was so much fun to watch the little ones interact with each other. 

Seeing the girls together also reinforced how even at this very young (and innocent age) that they are unique individuals with different personalities and learning styles. Yes, they both love to chew on books and play with blocks; however Madi is an in your face explorer, while our new little friend is content to sit back and observe what happens around her before getting involved. One method is not better than the other - they are just different.

Yes - I have compared Madi to other kids. If Madi is 'behind' the comparison kid than I feel inadequate as a parent. If Madi is 'if front of' the comparison kid then I feel as if I have earned a gold star. So is the comparison for Madi's benefit or my own? I think that too many parents get caught up in comparing their children to other children they know and in doing so they forget that their baby is unique. All I can do is try not to focus on it because where does that get me?

Babies will reach milestones, grow, and learn at different rates. The important part is letting them do so at their own pace and loving them every step of the way.