Crying It Out

Since the fall Madi has been getting up in the middle of the night to eat, usually somewhere between 2 and 4 am. Generally, she was up for about 45 minutes till she would drink her bottle and fall back asleep. And I should state that Madi has to be held and rocked until she is sound asleep and can be put down in her crib. (Yes, this is totally the doing of my husband and I as we have held her till she was asleep since she was born.) Anyway, the last week or so Madi has been up for about 90 minutes in the middle of the night when she wakes up and has spent most of that time sleeping in my arms. When I would try to put her down in the crib she immediately stands up and starts crying, thus prolonging the nighttime feeding.

Needless to say, this mommy can't take any more nighttime feedings that take so long. So my husband and I decided to let Madi cry it out, again. I say again because we had started this process in September of last year, but we stopped when Madi got sick with a cold. (We couldn't stand letting her cry and have snot running down her face and in her mouth - too gross.)

The first night, Madi fell asleep sitting up in her crib hands gripping the bars, head leaning in corner after about an hour of crying. I was afraid that if I laid her down she would wake up, so my awesome hubby did it and she didn't even wake up. Even better, she slept through the night! The next day wasn't so good - Madi hardly napped because she wouldn't give into sleep. (At nap time we decided to only let her cry for an hour.) The second night, it took about 45 minutes before Madi fell asleep laying on her belly, butt up in the air. In the middle of the night, she cried for over an hour before going back to sleep after a bottle. Today (day three), Madi took two naps in her car  seat since we were out and about doing errands. Tonight, Madi only cried for 20 minutes before falling asleep. I can only hope that the middle of the night goes as smoothly.

Letting little ones cry themselves to sleep is a highly debated topic among parents and the so-called experts. Some believe that it fosters anxiety, specifically speration anxiety in youngsters and other anxiety disorders in adults. Others feel that it should be considered child neglect. The majority of people just have a hard time listening to kids cry. I fall into the last category. Listening to Madi cry when all she wants is cuddled and rocked to sleep makes my heart ache. But I keep reminding myself that she needs to learn to fall asleep by herself in her crib. So here's to a few rough bedtimes, in order to have easy bedtimes in the future.